Oftentimes, after posting a blog, someone leaves me a comment that confuses me. I reread it slowly, several times, hoping that the comment's meaning will become clear to me. The confusion is the result of my failure to correlate - to find a reciprocal relation between the comment's meaning and my blog.
Unable to do anything else, I offer a confused response to my reader's comment. Clearly, they are addressing a meaning they found in my blog, however, not for the lack of trying, I am at a loss as to what meaning they have perceived. The comment usually has a sense of disagreement or at times, an effort to enlighten me. Perhaps the best response at these times would be - no response but it feels unkind not to acknowledge their effort to communicate with me. They have taken the time to comment and that they give of their time, is valuable to me.
There is no answer to this problem except for searching clearer ways to share my ideas. I am better in conversation since there is much more information to help me understand what is in the mind of another. What's more, the other would see loving intent on my face. Here, interacting with a paragraph of words (a comment response to a blog), it is more difficult to find that mutual understanding.
We, humans, are in constant conversation. The other day, as I entered a library, suddenly, I heard voices issuing forth from within the back to back thousands of books waiting for a listener -a reader. For the more linear, this is a metaphor, I did not literally hear voices. I cognized the many genres of conversation the world's people are engaged in. Oral dialogue is how I usually think of a conversation but that day, I realized many other forms of conversation exist.
One of them is when we share our thoughts through a written longer form. Oral dialogue, although, offering the clearest way of sharing ideas, has a huge drawback. Abstract ideas require patience to listen, curiosity to learn what's being said and paraphrasing to communicate there is an understanding. Both people have to offer time and an interest to understand each other.
Oral dialogue is the worst conductor of abstract ideas. This is where writing excels. Blogging is a mixture of writing and instant response (as we find in oral dialogue). When I began blogging in 2009, I hoped that this form of conversation would offer a bridge for a more effective way of figuring out this life's confusion with each other.
I imagined that after posting a blog, another blogger, if interested, of course, would 'listen patiently', 'curiously ask questions to determine the blog's content, and if inspired to add something, write their own personal blog in response. I was disappointed to learn, the same blocks that exist in oral dialogue apply to this genre of conversation.
I keep hoping that this will change. I hope that if you have a response, you will be inspired to write a responding blog and leave me a link so that we may continue in blogging conversation. If not, and if you do respond, in whatever manner you decide, I will do my best to understand and respond. If my best is not good enough, I hope you have the compassion to understand, I am a learning being that may never learn what you know unless of course, you decide to try and explain in a longer format of communication.