Life Is Not Easy

I don't understand why I feel cheated.  After all, I was never once told life would be easy;  I was counselled otherwise. 

Why then do I feel surprised when facing the not-easy?  What evidence is there affirming life is supposed to be 'easy'?  Without any support that life is easy,  why am I disappointed to discover life is difficult? 

Under the weight of all the difficult facts,  when life loops the difficult, wouldn't shrugging be more appropriate than shock?

In the face of all this earthly adversity how can I continue to expect easy?   By now, should I not be expecting the difficult rather than easy? 

Being surprised when this world repeatedly defeats me into despair exposes my sneaky secret belief.  There is no point denying it.   Expecting easy is the hidden agenda promoting my becoming overwhelmed when life presents its difficulties. 

Easy's evidence is not part of this planet's script;  the clues that life is difficult, obvious and rampant.  However, I continue to expect easy as is proven by my disappointment in discovering, once again,  how difficult this earthly existence is.

There has been much effort made on my behalf.  Repeatedly educated by wise waggling fingers warning me of the pitfalls and hindrances prepped to spring if I didn't 'watch it', one may conclude, I have a learning disability.  In addition, experience has often whacked me with two-by-fours delivered by people I counted upon.  Now I ask you what else can be done to enlighten me?

My family plunged their fear filled syringes into my brain.  My teachers demonstrated facts and figures hoping to invigorate my attention. 

My friends sympathize and encourage, retelling me that hardship increases with each second.  They tell me chin up, what doesn`t kill you makes you stronger.

Then, why do I continue expecting easy, falling into despair when it isn't?

Some would say my innocence has not been wiped off my hard drive affectively, a grand failure at my age; a mal function of the-falling-from-innocence gene, perhaps a brain disorder.  Many would say I need to acquire a backbone and grow up. 

For what can explain my not grasping the fact, life is difficult?  Why do I waste time expecting an easy life when there is no support for this idea?

But maybe that expectation is trying to tell me something.  Maybe it's an expectation only while I look backwards.  Perhaps it's my focus that is off and not the expectation. 

Could the expectation be twofold?  Not only informing me that life is not easy but also serving as an inspiration to look forward and invent a new way? 

Could the expectation be inspiration calling for a solution?  An expectation sirening a new idea that would improve life which would then cause life to be easier?

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Comments (28)

  1. wirelessguru1

    Well, I’ve already tried as much as possible to enlighten you.
    +1 (Neo)

    April 22, 2014
  2. withwings

    Its an uncommon perspective and stance to take. I’ve read innumerable quotes and heard many positive speakers speak on exactly this subject.
    You can ‘hear’ all you want but until you ‘listen’ thats all it is, something you heard once and often times never applied.
    Yet,
    Why not adopt that perspective? heh
    I gave up searching for easy once, because I didn’t think I deserved it. As I’ve since taken the harder roads, and felt content and fulfilled by that its also given me a new outlook and inlook on my past life lived.

    April 22, 2014
    1. greunie

      Why not? There is nothing to lose but misery.

      April 23, 2014
  3. depressedgirl

    I know where you are coming from. Right now I am fighting 2 illnesses. I refuse to let them knock me down. But now I am not feeling as secure as I was. In fact.. I am down right frightened. Life is so difficult. I don’t know what to do. But keep trying to pray and forcing myself to go on. When all I want to do is put my stuffed animals all around me and cover all the way up and hang out on bed… forever!! I wish you all the very best. You are in my prayers. If I can help in anyway please let me know.

    April 22, 2014
    1. greunie

      With the depth of your faith comforting your fear, this whatever challenging you can be faced with love. Remember that love can heal…

      April 23, 2014
      1. drivefaastakechances

        I agree wholeheartedly, love can and does heal.

        April 23, 2014
      2. depressedgirl

        Thanks so much.

        April 26, 2014
  4. yayuki

    Life is as easy as you let it be

    April 22, 2014
    1. greunie

      Exactly.

      April 23, 2014
      1. yayuki

        Here we keep on agreeing

        April 23, 2014
  5. drivefaastakechances

    You remind me of the leaders at the church where I placed my girls in religious education. When you write like this—from this perspective as if you are "us"— it helps us all. But you already know this—because you are brilliant like that. Your questions enter all our minds which is why you blog, write, post your wonderful philosophies. As I recently commented on another writers blog, I am not just individually different, I am staunchly independent, especially over the last 5 years or more—by choice. A day doesn’t go by that I don’t find myself recreating a better “sanctuary” for my girls and I. Soon they will both be in college and my “sanctuary” will be different and need some rebuilding. I value my childhood more and more everyday, because for the short time I had with my parents and older sister—it has made me a more conscious person. It has allowed me space to learn from others what they had not the time to teach me. Life is not easy, but it is also lovely. I create/problem solve everyday–never a dull moment. I don’t know you well enough to speak for you, but what I do know of you I am willing to bank on the ideals of your path were never easy enough for you to have become as graceful a woman, so wise a philosopher, so diligent a mother, so supportive of a wife that you, my lovely woman, are made of the exact specs and embodiment of the quintessential angel on earth. For all the tough lives you’ve overcome you are whole.

    April 22, 2014
    1. greunie

      You give me too much credit… referring to “you already know this”. I am not sure if I didn’t have your support in the last few months that I would still be writing on Thoughts. Thank you for making a difference for me too.

      April 23, 2014
      1. drivefaastakechances

        Fine. That part can come out, but the rest stays.

        April 23, 2014
      2. drivefaastakechances

        :P you do already know this…because ppl are commenting openly about their lives not being easy…you are letting us talk by way of asking yourself questions. You’re a sleek, stealth one, you are. And you are very welcome, you are loved by many as well as this little chances-taker.

        April 23, 2014
        1. greunie

          April 23, 2014
  6. Phat

    Life is difficult and when you have as many issues as me, it’s even more so. Just the way it is I suppose but I keep soldiering on and place one foot in front of the other to see what comes next, inevitably, it’s another hurdle. I’m long over due an easy glide.

    April 23, 2014
    1. greunie

      I agree. But these issues are the paint to your masterpiece… create it out of the mire that the universe deals you. The easy glide is when we are busy creating … the spears keep coming but we can be skilful dodgers… yes?

      April 23, 2014
  7. cliched

    I just heaved a huge sigh.
    Makes sense. I don’t think I’m through feeling sorry for myself yet

    April 23, 2014
    1. greunie

      Oh yes? Will you be long in doing that? The world needs your positive vibration. So many cannot ‘get’ it.

      April 23, 2014
      1. cliched

        Gotcha lol

        April 25, 2014
  8. cjb321

    Whoever said life is easy….never lived a difficult one!! smiles softly

    April 23, 2014
    1. greunie

      I have never heard anyone say this. Have you?

      April 23, 2014
      1. cjb321

        Nope…not to MY face. lol

        April 23, 2014
  9. Toni55

    I have always believed that all emotions in life are a choice, I am still working on my “choices” but by my acknowledging my difficulties the choices become easier.

    April 23, 2014
    1. greunie

      With respect In my understanding, some of my emotions are not choices but rather self communications, results of interacting with a creative environment. How I use my imagination once I process those communications is where I think the choice is found.

      April 23, 2014
      1. Toni55

        Everything you say is taking with respect…..hugs

        April 23, 2014
  10. greunie

    Oh my dearest Mike, how good your words!

    April 23, 2014