What is being one's self?
This has long been a confusing concept to me. The first question that has as yet not been answered satisfactorily is: Exactly what is being one's self?
Is it saying and doing whatever spontaneously occurs in our minds?
Is it my choices resulting from a preferential guidance system? If so, how much is that preferential system influenced by parental, societal and experience influence?
If I have a new preference am I still being myself?
I hope you will give me your ideas. I ask this without ulterior motives. I just don't understand what everyone means when they say this.
If you do take the time to offer me your perception, I thank you in advance. I will not comment on your perception. I am interested in acquiring your opinions and then pondering on them.
I have been trying to understand this concept for many years but it seems to me that being myself is impossible in relationship with another being. In my experience the only time I am absolutely free to be myself is alone. For when I express myself without a filtering system, another is quick to correct me into the 'right' way of being. Holding on, insisting of being the incorrect whatever only results in an argument.
If I then learn an improved way of being, am I no longer just being myself?